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If you've ever found yourself in a relationship that wasn't right for you, or if you're feeling like your partner is always doing things on their own terms, then this post is for you. In it, we'll cover what boundaries are and how they can help make sure your relationships stay healthy and happy—for both of you.

It is hard.

Setting boundaries is hard. First, you have to decide what your boundaries actually are. Then, you have to figure out how to enforce those boundaries. You can't just say "no." You have to be prepared for whatever happens next (and it won't always be good).

It's even harder when the person with whom you're setting a boundary doesn't know how or why they've hurt you—but that doesn't mean their actions aren't hurting you. In fact, sometimes people hurt other people when they don't realize what they're doing because of something about themselves that makes them believe their actions are okay; this behavior often stems from both internalized and externalized stigma around mental health issues like anxiety and depression as well as past trauma from childhood abuse or neglect (or both).

The first step towards setting healthy boundaries with people who do not currently respect your feelings: realizing that what they do is not okay and then deciding whether or not staying friends with them is worth the emotional labor of trying to make them understand why their behavior has made others uncomfortable in the past (and possibly will again in the future). Once this decision has been made—which may take time and several conversations before anything changes—it will still take courage on your part to tell someone who isn’t respecting your feelings "I need space" instead of trying harder than ever before just so nothing goes wrong between us again."


In order to understand what boundaries are and how they can help you, let’s start with a metaphor. Imagine that you have been invited to a party. You get there, and everyone is already drunk. You notice one of your friends has passed out on the floor in the corner of the room after spilling their drink all over themselves. Someone else pours beer on your head because they don’t know who you are or why they aren’t supposed to do this when there are rules against it posted at all entrances/exits leading into/out of said party location (which is also not allowed). A third person comes up behind them and steals their wallet without anyone noticing until later when someone finds it under their seat cushion after leaving for home but before realizing how much cash was actually inside! Finally—not feeling safe here anymore—you begin walking away slowly towards where we started: outside where hopefully we won't be accosted by another drunken fool trying make us feel bad about ourselves while simultaneously failing at doing so due to being too drunk themselves!

What boundaries are....

Boundaries are the limit of what you will and won't do. They are the limit of what you will and won't allow. They're also the limits of what you will and won't accept, as well as what you will and won't tolerate.

In essence, boundaries are a way to set yourself up for success in your relationships with others by making sure that everyone is on the same page about what's acceptable behavior from both sides—and when something isn’t working out, it’s important to know how to communicate effectively so that everyone can move forward without drama or hard feelings.

They are personal.

Boundaries are personal.

Boundaries are different for everyone.

Boundaries can change over time.

What do they mean?

Boundaries are your personal, professional and physical limits. They are the lines that you draw for yourself and others about what is acceptable behavior in your life, whether it's what you're willing to do or not.

A boundary can be physical, such as saying no when someone asks you if they can kiss or hug you. It could also be emotional, like setting clear expectations regarding how much time or money you're willing to invest in a relationship with someone else. Or it might be more complicated—for example, deciding how often your boss texts or calls during the work day is one example of an emotional boundary that may need some adjusting depending on the personality type of each person involved (in this case: his own).

Understanding where your boundaries lie is important because if other people know what yours are then they'll respect them more easily than if they don't know them at all!

Different boundaries for different things.

Boundaries, in the sense of personal boundaries, are different for everyone. The idea that you're not allowed to have your own standards and preferences sounds absurd to most people. It is also true that boundaries can change over time, as we get older or more experienced with others. Some things might be fine when you're young but become inappropriate later on; this is one reason why parents often don't allow their kids to go around cursing at them or getting drunk until they are much older than teenagers.

The concept of boundaries can be flexible: it's not all-or-nothing. You might not want someone around at all times—but if they do come over every now and then, maybe it's okay! Maybe being alone isn't always so great either; having some company would be nice sometimes! It's up to each person how much they're willing to put up with in exchange for something else (like friendship).

to different people.

Boundaries are the limits of your emotional comfort zone. They can be physical, emotional or mental and they may be big or small. They can be flexible or rigid, clear or vague.

But what is a boundary?

  • A boundary is a limit you set for yourself that allows you to feel safe from others' actions, words and behaviors. It protects your sense of self-worth and dignity by preventing others from taking more than you choose to give them.

  • Boundaries are about respect - yours for yourself as well as theirs for you! We all deserve respect no matter how much (or little) we have in common with each other in terms of age, gender identity/expression or sexual orientation

Some people have very strong limits; others have vague boundaries that wax and wane as life demands.

Some people have very strong limits; others have vague boundaries that wax and wane as life demands. Boundaries are personal, they mean different things to different people.

Boundaries can change over time and vary depending on the situation, but they should always be considered with respect to how they impact you and your needs. For example, a person may feel fine in one context when their space is invaded by another person or group of people, but might feel uncomfortable in another situation where their personal boundaries are not respected by others.

You can't be happy if you don't know what you want.

Knowing what you want is important. It's one of the cornerstones of happiness and mental health. You need to know what it is in order to be happy, because if you don't know what makes you happy, how will it ever come your way? And even if it does, how will you know that this thing or experience is actually making you happy? Or have a chance at making you happy? This may sound silly but I'm telling y'all: knowing what makes us happy (or doesn't) can make all the difference in our lives! For example, imagine someone who's depressed takes antidepressants and then finds out that they do nothing for them because he has no idea what would actually make him feel better—like maybe getting out more often instead of staying alone at home all day long watching romantic comedies on Netflix while eating pizza rolls until he's sick from them (this happened). If only he had known about his options beforehand...

If you feel like you don't have a good sense of what your boundaries are, or if they seem to be changing all the time, try setting some limits for yourself and sticking with them. It can be scary at first, but having strong boundaries is one of the most effective things we can do to live happier lives.


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