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The 30 something Bag Lady/Bag Man: Processing and Releasing our Emotional Baggage

This is a piece that I've been working on for a while, and it's finally ready to share. If you're not familiar with the term "emotional baggage", it refers to unresolved issues in our lives that hold us back from being happy. We all have them, and they may be different for everyone. In this article I'll talk about why we get this way, how to deal with your issues, and ultimately how to feel free again!

Why I felt it was necessary to create this piece.

You might have noticed that I have a tendency to write about the importance of processing and releasing our emotional baggage. In fact, it’s one of my favorite topics! It’s also probably the reason that I created this piece in the first place.

There are many reasons why we hold onto our emotional baggage, but let's start by saying that we are all guilty of doing it at some point in time. Some of us have more than others and some have less. The truth is that if we don't process and release our emotional baggage, then our lives will continue to be held back by past experiences that need closure or understanding before they can truly be released forever.

The benefits of processing and releasing your emotional baggage include: feeling lighter/more positive; having clearer thoughts; being able to move forward with greater ease; experiencing more joy (because guess what? You get to create new stories for yourself!).

How did I get to my emotional baggage?

Do you ever get the feeling that you're carrying around a lot of emotional baggage? If so, this is for you.

I'm going to ask you a few questions about how your childhood has impacted your life as an adult and how it's affecting your current relationships. If there are certain events or experiences in your past that still affect how you interact with others, then it's important to process them and release them so they don't continue to weigh down on your relationships in the present day.

What is emotional baggage?

When I ask clients what their emotional baggage is, they often respond with something like, “I'm not happy with my family!” Or “My partner is emotionally abusive!” Or maybe they say nothing at all because they don't know.

Emotional baggage is not limited to issues from the past. It can also be the unresolved issues in your present or future. Emotional baggage can come from a variety of sources: childhood abuse or neglect; romantic relationships gone wrong; family conflicts and dysfunctional relationships; addictions—the list goes on and on. It's important to realize that all these experiences affect us in ways we may not even realize until we start digging into our pasts and uncovering those hidden boxes of painful memories that keep us feeling stuck in life today (or tomorrow).

Confronting your emotional baggage and why it's so important.

Confronting your emotional baggage is often a necessary step in the process of personal growth and development.

If you're not dealing with your emotional baggage, it can lead to:

  • Making bad decisions.

  • Wasting time.

  • Not being able to move forward in life or in relationships because of fear, uncertainty or resentment towards someone else.

The conversation.

The conversation is a process of releasing your emotional baggage to someone who will listen, validate and support you. It can be with a friend, family member or therapist. It can be in person or over the phone. The important thing is that the person listens to and supports you as you talk about your feelings, goals, dreams and aspirations.

The best way to have this conversation is by asking yourself: “What do I want?”

Processing your emotional baggage.

The first step in releasing your emotional baggage is processing it. Processing your emotions is a way of taking an honest look at what's holding you back in life. When we process our emotions, we get to the root cause of whatever feeling has been holding us back. For example, if you are feeling afraid or angry all the time, then it may be because something happened that made you feel unsafe or afraid as a child and now those feelings are coming up again. The first step toward healing is learning how to process these feelings so that they don't keep popping up later on when something triggers them (like being scared by someone who looks like your abuser). When we go through this process with someone who has experienced similar things as us (and knows how hard it can be), it makes this journey much more manageable.

Releasing your emotional baggage.

It’s important to recognize the fact that we all have emotional baggage. Everyone has a story, and every story is unique but also similar in some way. When you are able to fully process your experience, you will be able to release the emotional baggage that it holds within it and move on with your life.

The first step towards releasing your emotional baggage is being able to identify what exactly it is that you are carrying around with you. Are there specific moments in time? Do certain people trigger thoughts or emotions when they appear? How did these things happen? What has changed since then? These are questions worth asking yourself as they will help narrow down where the root of your problem lies and make it easier for you to work through them.

When dealing with difficult experiences, finding closure can be very difficult because these memories sometimes seem like they will never leave us alone no matter how hard we try or want them too; this is why taking a closer look at how we got there in the first place can help us make sense out of what happened and give us peace of mind moving forward from here on out!

After releasing all of those negative feelings associated with past experiences (both good and bad), feeling lighter than ever before! You not only get rid of any physical items but also mental ones which weigh heavily on our minds even after years go by without thinking about them anymore."

We all have issues that need to be resolved and dealt with before we can feel free again

Emotional baggage can be a huge burden on our lives. We all have issues that need to be resolved and dealt with before we can feel free again.

The 30 something Bag Lady/Bag Man is all about processing and releasing our emotional baggage so that we don't carry it around with us for the rest of our lives, like a heavy suitcase full of bricks!

I hope that this post helps you to understand what emotional baggage is and how it affects us. We all have issues that need to be resolved and dealt with before we can feel free again.


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