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Leaning in to Falling Apart: Putting Yourself Back Together the Way You See You!


We all have moments where we fall apart. We feel like all is lost, and it’s just not worth it anymore. I have been through my fair share of ups and downs in life, but something I always try to remember is that falling apart can be a good thing sometimes. It gives you an idea of what needs to be done to get back up again, stronger than ever before!

Falling apart

You have to go through the pain and suffering to get to a better place. Sometimes it is necessary to fall apart before you can put yourself back together again. It is okay to fall apart, you are not alone.

Separate yourself from hurt, pain and suffering

Separate yourself from hurt, pain and suffering.

Your worth is not defined by others. You are worthy of love, respect and kindness even if someone doesn't show it to you. You cannot control how people treat you but you can control how much time and energy you put into those relationships that don't feel good for anyone involved!

Stay true to yourself

When you know who you are and what you stand for, it's easier to stay true to yourself. You won't have to change who you are in order to fit in with others or please them. Because of this, it's important for girls and women of all ages not only know their values but also live by them every day!

When I was younger, I remember wanting so badly for my parents' approval because they had such high expectations of me as an athlete (and later on as a student). But instead of being proud of me when I made good grades or won awards at competitions like basketball tournaments (which were rare), they would always tell me that other people had done better than we did--and therefore there was no point in celebrating anything at all! That meant that even though I worked hard towards my goals as an athlete/student...I never felt accomplished enough because no matter how well I did someone else did better than me somewhere along the line..

Be your own best friend

  • Be your own best friend.

  • You are the only person who can be your best friend, and you need to be that person for yourself. To do this well, you must be honest with yourself and kind to yourself--and patient with yourself when things get difficult. Compassionate too! Sometimes we need space from others--not because they're bad people or mean-spirited but because we need time away from others' expectations of us in order to find our own way forward.*

Know when to let go of things and situations.

You have to know when to let go of things and situations. If it's not working out, then it's time to move on. Don't be afraid of doing something that everyone else tries stops you from doing because they don't understand or agree with what you want in life! Make sure the things are morally right and not harmful or bad for your well-being and health!

Know that you can do it alone.

I know that feeling of not wanting to do something because you think no one is going to support you. But what if I told you that the only person who can tell you what to do is YOU?

You are your own best friend and ally, so don't be afraid of doing things that people try stopping you from doing because they don't know how amazing it will make YOU feel when they see how much progress and growth has happened in your life!

Put your mind and body first.

  • Focus on your mental health.

  • Take care of your body.

  • Take time to relax and do things that make you feel good, like taking a bath or going for a walk in nature or reading a book.

  • Don't do things that don't make you feel good, like over indulging in drinking or eating junk food all the time because it's cheap and convenient (and not good for you). If there are other people involved in this decision making process, create a boundary around your actions and communicate it with them!

Do what makes you happy.


Don't let anyone interfere with what makes you happy in life. Don't be afraid to do things that you want to do but everyone else tries stops you from doing. Make sure the things are morally right and not harmful or bad for your well-being and health. Go travel, get a massage, write a book, start an organization, take pictures, live your life not just exist!


Falling apart can be a good thing sometimes, it gives you an idea of what needs to be done to get back up and mentally healthier.

It helps you see what you need to do to move forward.


I hope this article has helped you to see that falling apart can be a good thing. It gives us an opportunity to reflect on our lives, make changes and get back up stronger than before!




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